Nobody Is Better Than Your Kids

Published: Jan. 15, 2020, 2 p.m.

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The great physicist Richard Feynman had a father who instilled his brilliant son with an interesting perspective about the world. Sitting down, he would lay the newspaper out on the table and ask his boy questions about what they saw and read. Once, when they came upon a photo of the Pope blessing a group of believers, Richard\\u2019s father asked his son if he knew the difference between the Pope and his followers. And then, before Richard could answer, he said, \\u201cThe difference is the hat. He is wearing a hat.\\u201d His dad would repeat the same exercise whether it was a photo of a general with stars on their collar or a wealthy executive with an expensive suit.\\xa0

After years in the uniform business, Feynman\\u2019s father knew that people were people, whatever clothes their job dressed them in. He wanted his son to realize that nobody was better than him, that everybody was equal, no matter who they were and what they had accomplished.\\xa0

You can imagine this gave his young son a lot of confidence, confidence that your children could benefit from. Just because other kids live in bigger houses or have more illustrious last names, does that mean they are better? Just because other kids do or don\\u2019t wear glasses, do or don\\u2019t have their own car, do or don\\u2019t go on weekend ski trips, do or don\\u2019t receive financial aid, what does that mean? It means nothing. If you want to raise a kid that challenges the status quo, that fulfills their potential, that looks at the world without prejudice, teach them that.\\xa0

The other side of that lesson for Feynman was humility and it\\u2019s why you should teach it to your kids too. Feynman didn\\u2019t think his Nobel Prize made him special\\u2014in fact, he was reluctant to accept it. Because he disliked the pomp and circumstance and he knew that accolades don\\u2019t make you any more or less right. He didn\\u2019t need a special hat to feel good about himself, and he didn\\u2019t like getting the attention\\u2014when the work was what mattered.\\xa0

Nobody is better than your kids and your kids are not better than anyone else. The sooner they realize that, the better.

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